Love has an interesting affect on us. It guides us, confuses us, loses us, and holds us to ourselves. Best of all it makes us happy.
What about when we fall though. In the respect to a certain Lovedrug song it says "I wanna make you happy but I have fallen, I'm sorry" why is it that we fall in love and fall during love? Is it human nature? A character flaw? For none of us are perfect....
Somethings happen because they happen not because we necessarily have any control on them. The hands of time don't slow their dance around the numeric code just for us to perceive everything around us. Sometimes we don't see them happening, because love alters focus and there is nothing wrong with that.What about when we fall though. In the respect to a certain Lovedrug song it says "I wanna make you happy but I have fallen, I'm sorry" why is it that we fall in love and fall during love? Is it human nature? A character flaw? For none of us are perfect....
Because when it comes down to it, all everyone wants is to be loved and love in return. Wear your shields and masks if you must, but it is true. However one cannot put everything into a relationship and sacrifice themselves as individuals in the process. For if you lose yourself you may lose the person who is in love with you.
They may pull away from you. Not because they hate you but because they fell in love with you, your personality, your dependence, your smile and your laugh...if you cease to be these things, well the elements of the relationship change.
Though the classic phrase "it takes two to tango" is a statement tried and true to any relationship. A person in a relationship is bound to change a little, it is foolish to think they wont. Relationships present us with new possibilities and new desires. The desire to see the one you love succeed and be happy becomes very important. However the other must see the same for you otherwise things can become inadequate. These desires cause us to reorient our goals a little. However they should not require us to do a 180.
So do not lose your head in a relationship, being completely co-dependent on someone is not attractive. If you don't understand when these types of conversations enter your lives take a moment to look at yourself...is your shadow laughing at you?
Do not make the mistake of so many and become known just a someone's relation.
A relationship should yes be one of the top focuses but not the only focus in your life.
For those who have seen the one you care for start to lose themselves in the relationship...perhaps there is something you caused or maybe all you have to do is bring it to attention. When a person loves you they understand that type of criticism is to help them, so as to help yourself and the relationship.
A key thing that we all must do, is to give it a chance and have a little patience. As the ever optimist because the life of a pessimist is far too bleak for me- life has enough hardships in it-look for the good ones.
Let that person know of the changes, then let them decide if they wanted those changes or if they want to get back. There may be some crucial and very important reason why the shift happened. Do give them the chance to get back to themselves though....Love them enough to let them get back to the way things were, so that both can be happy again.
Love is ....complicated....some days those who have our hearts can hurt us the most and then there are days they makes us smile till our face falls off.
Always remember that in the end those you love and love you, are the most important and will be there when you start to feel like your going to be sucked into the sky.
