Moving!!!

Hello all! I am now moving my blog to wordpress.org

http://thephoenixcolumn.wordpress.com/

Should I stay or should I go. I have been playing around with the blogging site wordpress and really like but I like my blogger...hmmm

After falling into ourselves, will you be sucked into the sky

Love has an interesting affect on us. It guides us, confuses us, loses us, and holds us to ourselves. Best of all it makes us happy.
What about when we fall though. In the respect to a certain Lovedrug song it says "I wanna make you happy but I have fallen, I'm sorry" why is it that we fall in love and fall during love? Is it human nature? A character flaw? For none of us are perfect....

Somethings happen because they happen not because we necessarily have any control on them. The hands of time don't slow their dance around the numeric code just for us to perceive everything around us. Sometimes we don't see them happening, because love alters focus and there is nothing wrong with that.
Because when it comes down to it, all everyone wants is to be loved and love in return. Wear your shields and masks if you must, but it is true. However one cannot put everything into a relationship and sacrifice themselves as individuals in the process. For if you lose yourself you may lose the person who is in love with you.
They may pull away from you. Not because they hate you but because they fell in love with you, your personality, your dependence, your smile and your laugh...if you cease to be these things, well the elements of the relationship change.
Though the classic phrase "it takes two to tango" is a statement tried and true to any relationship. A person in a relationship is bound to change a little, it is foolish to think they wont. Relationships present us with new possibilities and new desires. The desire to see the one you love succeed and be happy becomes very important. However the other must see the same for you otherwise things can become inadequate. These desires cause us to reorient our goals a little. However they should not require us to do a 180.
So do not lose your head in a relationship, being completely co-dependent on someone is not attractive. If you don't understand when these types of conversations enter your lives take a moment to look at yourself...is your shadow laughing at you?
Do not make the mistake of so many and become known just a someone's relation.
A relationship should yes be one of the top focuses but not the only focus in your life.
For those who have seen the one you care for start to lose themselves in the relationship...perhaps there is something you caused or maybe all you have to do is bring it to attention. When a person loves you they understand that type of criticism is to help them, so as to help yourself and the relationship.
A key thing that we all must do, is to give it a chance and have a little patience. As the ever optimist because the life of a pessimist is far too bleak for me- life has enough hardships in it-look for the good ones.
Let that person know of the changes, then let them decide if they wanted those changes or if they want to get back. There may be some crucial and very important reason why the shift happened. Do give them the chance to get back to themselves though....Love them enough to let them get back to the way things were, so that both can be happy again.
Love is ....complicated....some days those who have our hearts can hurt us the most and then there are days they makes us smile till our face falls off.
Always remember that in the end those you love and love you, are the most important and will be there when you start to feel like your going to be sucked into the sky.

Hey all, I am going to be writing a new column for The Arbiter, it needs to corralate history with current events. Give me your thoughts

So I now have the capability to post on the go. So hopefully no more excuses. Haha

Prometeus

So as I am finally going to hopefully be able to start posting new blogs here. My first one is my thoughts on this video that I discovered on youtube. (love that thing) The video is called Prometeus The Media Revolution(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xj8ZadKgdC0).
This video talks about the change in the future of the media. It is rather disturbing how accurate this video could be, but at the same time very cool.
One point the video touches on is the change in communication and interaction amongst the individual. It touches on the aspect of the creation of Second Life-which I hate..mostly due to functionality issues. Great idea though. However I begin to wonder when the individual who uses the Second Life or World of Warcraft as that being their reality....this concerns me. While yes visually aesthetic it is still not reality.
Look at the real world. You hear actual real sounds of life. While yes in these virtual one can here birds chirp and hear the wind, but you can not feel it. There is a certain realism when you hear a bird near by chirp. And the feeling of the wind swirling around you. But screw nature, what about interaction with your friends and loved ones. Messaging on a server has to feel a little one-sided. The experience of physical touch is something that can not be reproduced artificially. Well yet anyways, and even then I have a feeling it will still not be close enough to the real thing. The feeling of someones heart beat or pulse or body heat. There is nothing like it.
So why would and individual want to live a vast majority of their life in a virtual world? ..Ok before I go off any futher, I am guilty of playing in these online worlds. The games and fantasy like WOW, Fiesta, and others ;) are a blast. However I know when to turn it off and do my homework, go out with friends and socialize.
However the are people who lose themselves completely to these worlds. Students fail school, couples end, friends disappear. False identities are created- there are people who only consider their lives is able to be lived online.
My thought is if we are going to have these dual lives, that every individual knows which is their real life. I am Ryan, a journalist student and human being, not a earth wizard in a fantasy land. I only play (emphasis on play!) When I have some free time to entertain my imagination. There is a clear boundary. If you don't know where that line is then you had better find it. Because if the power goes out on you ...then the world you think is real is stopped, what will you do then?